Life Group Questions

1.  Nick shared that if we do not control our anger, it will control us.  How do you believe you can become better at controlling your anger?  Share how you have gained victory in this area.

2.  David's rejection from Nabal came after the death of his beloved mentor, Samuel.  Why do you believe you are more susceptible to losing your temper after a huge loss?

3.  Flesh flashes occur most often after a great victory.  What things do you need to become disciplined in to protect yourself and those around you from blowing your top?

4.  David did not expect to be rejected by Nabal because David had treated his flocks and servants with respect and protection.  Why is it that when you experience rejection by a friend that it hurts so much deeper?

5.  Nick reminded us that we are saints (righteous because of Jesus' blood) who sometimes sin.  Share who you have in your life who reminds you that you are a saint.  Share how they enoourage you to get back up after you have fallen.


What is your I.Q. Factor?

Irritability Quotient (I.Q.)

How much does it take to tick you off, push your buttons, or light your fuse?

Pastor Lloyd John Ogilvie
- “Tell me what ticks you off and I will tell you what makes you tick.”

When God measures a man He doesn’t put a tape around his brain, bicep, or billfold, but around his heart (1 Samuel 16:7)

Acts 13:22
David followed God with all his heart - but still needed training in this area!

We have to get this in our lives – That our anger is not controlling us but we are controlled by the Spirit of God.

1 Samuel 25:1-39

25 Now Samuel died, and all Israel assembled and mourned for him; and they buried him at his home in Ramah. Then David moved down into the Desert of Paran. 2 A certain man in Maon, who had property there at Carmel, was very wealthy. He had a thousand goats and three thousand sheep, which he was shearing in Carmel. 3 His name was Nabal and his wife’s name was Abigail. She was an intelligent and beautiful woman, but her husband was surly and mean in his dealings—he was a Calebite.

4 While David was in the wilderness, he heard that Nabal was shearing sheep.5 So he sent ten young men and said to them, “Go up to Nabal at Carmel and greet him in my name. 6 Say to him: ‘Long life to you! Good health to you and your household! And good health to all that is yours! 7 “‘Now I hear that it is sheep-shearing time. When your shepherds were with us, we did not mistreat them, and the whole time they were at Carmel nothing of theirs was missing. 8 Ask your own servants and they will tell you. Therefore be favorable toward my men, since we come at a festive time. Please give your servants and your son David whatever you can find for them.’” 9 When David’s men arrived, they gave Nabal this message in David’s name. Then they waited. 10 Nabal answered David’s servants, “Who is this David? Who is this son of Jesse? Many servants are breaking away from their masters these days. 11 Why should I take my bread and water, and the meat I have slaughtered for my shearers, and give it to men coming from who knows where?” 12 David’s men turned around and went back. When they arrived, they reported every word. 13 David said to his men, “Each of you strap on your sword!” So they did, and David strapped his on as well. About four hundred men went up with David, while two hundred stayed with the supplies.

14 One of the servants told Abigail, Nabal’s wife, “David sent messengers from the wilderness to give our master his greetings, but he hurled insults at them.15 Yet these men were very good to us. They did not mistreat us, and the whole time we were out in the fields near them nothing was missing. 16 Night and day they were a wall around us the whole time we were herding our sheep near them. 17 Now think it over and see what you can do, because disaster is hanging over our master and his whole household. He is such a wicked man that no one can talk to him.”

18 Abigail acted quickly. She took two hundred loaves of bread, two skins of wine, five dressed sheep, five seahs of roasted grain, a hundred cakes of raisins and two hundred cakes of pressed figs, and loaded them on donkeys.
21 David had just said, “It’s been useless—all my watching over this fellow’s property in the wilderness so that nothing of his was missing. He has paid me back evil for good.

32 David said to Abigail, “Praise be to the Lord, the God of Israel, who has sent you today to meet me. 33 May you be blessed for your good judgment and for keeping me from bloodshed this day and from avenging myself with my own hands. 34 Otherwise, as surely as the Lord, the God of Israel, lives, who has kept me from harming you, if you had not come quickly to meet me, not one male belonging to Nabal would have been left alive by daybreak.” 35 Then David accepted from her hand what she had brought him and said, “Go home in peace. I have heard your words and granted your request.” 36 When Abigail went to Nabal, he was in the house holding a banquet like that of a king. He was in high spirits and very drunk. So she told him nothing at all until daybreak. 37 Then in the morning, when Nabal was sober, his wife told him all these things, and his heart failed him and he became like a stone.  38 About ten days later, the Lord struck Nabal and he died. 39 When David heard that Nabal was dead, he said, “Praise be to the Lord, who has upheld my cause against Nabal for treating me with contempt. He has kept his servant from doing wrong and has brought Nabal’s wrongdoing down on his own head.”

Lesson One – Always remember that yesterday’s victories may become today’s temptations (1Samuel 24:4-7)

Ÿ Pray Continually
Ÿ Walk in the Spirit
Ÿ Victory in Jesus

Lesson Two – Always remember that a small temptation is likely to succeed after a greater temptation has been resisted.

Ÿ Pride vs. Humility
Ÿ Expected it from an enemy, not from a Friend.
Ÿ Irritability Quotient

Lesson Three – Always remember that overreaction in rage will lead to overkill in revenge.

James 1:19-20, “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”

When we’re mad, we’ve been had!

Proverbs 29:22: “An angry man stirs up dissension, and a hot-tempered one commits many sins.”

Proverbs 15:18a: “A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension.”

Proverbs 14:29b: “…A quick-tempered man displays folly.”

Proverbs 14:17a: “…A quick-tempered man does foolish things.”

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